Best First Dance Ever

I can’t believe how much traction this video is getting. If you don’t know what I am talking about click here.

The first dance mis-direction magic.

With the right tools, putting together the music is pretty simple, but doing it poorly will ruin it for everyone who comes after you. Get a good DJ who can mix the music.

Even Better –

Get a great DJ who knows your name when he introduces you. I swear this is the first thing I heard. “Ladies and Gentleman, our bride and groom and their very special first dance as husband and wife.”

This is the Master of Ceremonies equivalent of “And um, yeah well, um, you see, uhhhhhhh”.

I am guessing the DJ came from his day job. “Your order comes to $5.30, please pull to the first window.” It’s all words you say when you don’t know what to really say.

Maybe that is a little harsh, but seriously this bride and groom (whose are unknown at present, the search continues) have real names. Think about how much easier it would be if the DJ had bothered to learn their names and used them.

Tim & Jennifer

When I initially met with Tim and Jennifer they gave me a heads up that Tim’s sister was helping out with the planning.

Fast forward to a month before the wedding…. It turns out that Tim’s sister is actually a movie producer and director. Most recently a documentary called “By the People” which got picked up by PBS. You can check it out here…

Malindi takes detail oriented to a whole new level. We got together like peas and carrots! The wedding and reception were held at the Hilton Indianapolis North.

The ceremony and reception was in the Crown room which has been updated very nicely under new ownership. The menu also got overhauled. very nice. The cocktail hour spilled out onto the patios. The Evening flowed.

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Working with Professional DJs

Before your DJ plays the first song at your event, do you know what he (or she) has done to prepare for your event? The common misconception is that a DJ shows up, plays for 4-5 hours, then goes home. What most don’t realize is the experience the DJ has from previous events, as well as the time he will
dedicate to planning your event prior to playing the first song.

 What you don’t know about a professional DJs preperation may surprise you. A professional DJ usually has experience with your type of event because he has performed at several of these events in the past. You are gaining his experience (and mistakes) that allow your event to be better than the previous one. In most cases, these subtle differences impact the overall success of your event.

Preparing for your event may include meetings. These meetings allow your entertainer to better understand the vision you have for the outcome of your event. During these meetings your entertainer should ask many questions about you and your guests. The more your entertainer knows about you and your guests, the better chances he has for creating a successful party as you have pictured it.

Organizing your music may sound like a simple task. You probably figure most DJs use the same music at each event. However, each client has specific desires for the atmosphere they want to establish with music. Your DJ may need to reorganize his library, add additional selections, or even find music you have requested which is not in his library. The success of your party involves providing the right mix of music you and your guests will enjoy.

You most likely will never see the work involved in setting up the DJs sound system. Maintenance of a professional sound system is often minimal. It is the quality of professional equipment which will deliver sound quality you can enjoy at your event. A professional DJ will most likely show up 1-3 hours prior to the start of your event. Setting up, testing the equipment, and performing sound checks make for the start of a great party. When you walk in to your venue, you will notice the decor is all in place and your DJ entertainer is setup, dressed for your event.

 Your DJ provides much more than just the music at your event. Because he met with you, he understands your vision. He has designed the formalities as you requested. He will perform as Master of Ceremonies, making announcements, working with your other vendors, and keeping the sequence of events flowing. While all this appears polished, it is due to the time invested prior to playing the first song. A major portion of the success of your event rests in the hands of your chosen DJ entertainer.

To most professional DJs, your event is similar to the Oscars. You are the stars of the evening and they will help you plan, coordinate, organize, entertain, and program music. Because of your DJs experience at similar, previous events, meetings, music research, and other training, your event will most likely occur as you have already imagined it to be.

When researching your entertainment choice, evaluate the importance of your DJ. Your investment in your entertainment will contribute more to the overall success of your event than you realize (until afterwards). A professional DJ will care about the success of your event and will invest a great deal of time into creating the atmosphere you have imagined. While you may think your DJ “just plays music”, it is his experience, talent, and expertise that will deliver the reception of which you have always dreamed.

Make your event a fantastic success, find the “right” DJ for your once-in-a-lifetime celebration, instead of the one you may have found at the best price!

-Brian Graham

My friend Brian Graham wrote that article a couple of years ago. It has been posted all over the internet. Stolen, Copied without attribution, repurposed. Brian deserves better.

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Toasting Wedding Toasts

Apparently, I am still on the “do unto others” soap box. You may not be planning a “crashed” wedding, but you have probably selected a best man and maid of honor. The same should apply for best man and maid of honor during toasts.

So here is the pledge and promise. Yes, I will coach the best man and maid of honor. I have stacks of material on toasts (and roasts). Fun, Personal, Appropriate. (don’t forget World Class)

If we can save one wedding from the “last time the groom gets the upper hand” bit, it will be a cause worth fighting.

There was a movie back in 2005 called. The Wedding Crashers.


Wedding Crashers…

I have mixed feelings about “Wedding Crashers” the TV show on NBC. Pushing the envelope and challenging social norms candid camera style can be pretty entertaining.

Last week, they crossed MY line. They had a buxom, attractive “crasher” flirting with a 29 year old socially inept, single guy. I don’t think the bride and groom were being very good hosts allowing that to go down.

In improv, the first rule is make everyone else on stage look good. Humiliating a friend, a guest, anyone, especially publicly is bad form. The same rule should be obvious at a wedding including the DJ, the bride and groom, and the guests.

Think about the last time you got call out in a meeting or in the office anywhere. Not very pleasant.

Youtube your wedding!

I have always been a student of pop culture. This has to be my favorite new trend. It’s the ultimate personalization.

One of my friends just posted this video of a customized Father/Daughter Dance.
It has already been featured on Myspace.

Lest you think this is a one off. There are a ton to consider.

Will this become the “chicken dance” of the future? I don’t think so. So long as you make it great. and most important make it personal. I read a story the other day about a groomsman getting cut from the production because he missed two rehearsals for another “Youtube” moment.
If you want a moment like this at your wedding, please call me ahead of time. Music and choreography need to start E-A-R-L-Y. Remixing can take minutes or days, but it can be done ahead of time all the time.

If you want personal, but less choreography I have a ton of ideas that you can make your own.

The State Dinner In Honor Of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II

President George W. hosted his first white tie event in honor of Queen Elizabeth.

I am a big fan of etiquette. This event amounts to pretty much the high water mark of formal events in the US of A.

For those of you playing at home.. White Tie is a step up from Black Tie. White Tie is when its appropriate to break out the Tuxedo jacket with tails, floor length evening gowns. This is the very first White Tie event held in the current Bush white house. Etiquette and protocol staffers were working over time for months on this single event.

Here is a great link on the topic for gentlemen.,subcat-FAMILY.html

I believe Morning Suit tops White Tie for a day time event. “Four Weddings and a Funeral” is lousy with Morning Suits.

Now for your homework…

Q: When is it appropriate to button the bottom button on a suit jacket?

A: Generally, whenever the women you are accompanying tells you to, otherwise never.


Are you getting what you want?

My favorite line is this…

“lured by the knowledge that at least we’ll get a good party out of it. “

Is that the goal?

  • Bring together your odd collection of friends and families
  • Swear solemnly in front of God (or not) and everyone else that you are taking this living together thing seriously
  • That you will be expecting some love and support in this endeavor from everyone who is about to eat and drink on your tab.

It’s like a mix tape for humanity.

Respond to this ad and you might be DJ’ing your own wedding.

It’s May 3rd. A busy wedding season is just getting started. Guess what? DJ companies are looking for DJs. Check out this ad on Craig’s list.
Maybe they aren’t trying to fill dates they over booked. Maybe they won’t be sending out untrained DJs to a wedding.

Is the company you hired scrambling to find a DJ for your wedding?

Did you get the name of the DJ on the contract? You got a contract. Right?